Okay, maybe this is a weird post but I have thought about this for some time now. I can’t really talk to my friends about it because it’s about them. Luckily, most of them do not read my blog. 😀 So, I know someone (let’s call her Sherry) who had a bad experience with a friend (let’s call her Mimi, because why the hell not). Sherry paid for Mimi’s lunch one day. So Mimi took that as a sign that Sherry would then pay for every meal and outing thereafter. Sherry does not have a lot of money, so the last lunch they had, she told Mimi that they should split lunch. Mimi said she didn’t bring any money, so…yeah.
Another time Sherry was going over to Mimi’s house every weekend to help Mimi organize and clean. No money was being exchange, it was one friend helping another friend. Mimi barely helped in cleaning her own house as Sherry spent hours doing so. On the third visit, Mimi gave up the pretenses and sat on the couch and watched Sherry clean her house.
A whole bunch of other stuff happened, but, in the end, Sherry finally decided she hated being taken advantage of, so she dropped Mimi as a friend.
Getting rid of friends is something Sherry and I have talked a lot about. She gets rid of friends when they do something she can’t get over. I have to admit, usually she is right. In this situation, I agreed with her.
I have had friends come and go through my life. I don’t get rid of them but I let them get rid of themselves (that’s a whole other story). I have friends who I don’t always agree with their choices, way of thinking, or actions. They do stuff that annoys me, confuses me, and even hurts me sometimes, but that doesn’t mean they’re not my friends. I take what my friends do with a grain of salt. We all have different personalities, experiences, and feelings so we are going to react differently to different situations. We don’t have to always agree with our friends to stay friends with them, do we? Isn’t being friends mean you look past someone’s faults or extremes and like them anyway? Yes, sometimes people do things that are unforgivable and the friendship is bound to end. It happens. But if I dropped friends who annoyed me sometimes, I would have no friends left.
I guess I’m wanting reassurance that I am not the only one who doesn’t like their friends sometimes, be it because of a decision they made or something they said. That’s okay, right? Is it normal?