Bookish Blatherings #36: Bad Boys Have Ruined Me

Posted February 22nd, 2016 in Bookish Blatherings, My Features / 41 comments

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I feel so ashamed. It’s so wrong…but it feels so right. Bad boys, I just can’t get them out of my head. In books I mean. It’s bad, real bad. It’s so bad that any time I read about a nice guy, or sweet guy, or normal guy I am so disappointed. I know, that’s just horrible for me to say but it’s true. I need my bookish man to be bad, or rough, or brooding. Maybe even a little tormented. I know, so cliché, but it’s got its hooks into me.

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I have read a few books lately that felt like something was missing from them. I couldn’t get into them as much as I wanted to even when the story was good. And then it hit me, the guys were just too normal and nice. Bleh! Sure, I want a nice guy in the real world, but not in my books. Maybe way back when I liked the sweet ones, but now it’s all about the sexy bad boys. I like when the male MC’s take charge, don’t play by the rules, push the heroine to be bad too, and have that naughty streak. Sure, a little bit of a sweet side is okay, but it better be limited or I am bored!

Is it just me? Am I ruined by all the bookish bad boys and now they are the only ones who can satisfy me? Maybe I just haven’t found the right sweet/normal male MC. Do you know of any? Is anyone else out there ruined by fictional bad boys?

Do you prefer Bad Boys or Sweet Guys in your books?

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41 Responses to “Bookish Blatherings #36: Bad Boys Have Ruined Me”

  1. Jodie @ Words Read & Written

    The thing about bad boys… is that when you read about them, even though you are “bad”, you know the heroine is going to tame them. So they can do all these shitty things and we brush it off because he loves her.
    Bad boys work well in fiction – in real life not so much 🙂

  2. Ashley

    I like a good mixture. For example:

    * Guy who knows what he wants.
    * Looks and acts manly.
    * Isn’t so nice that he’s a pushover. I like a guy to stand up for himself (and others).


    * Is super nice to his girl. I don’t like bad boys who are just controlling assholes.
    * Isn’t a drug dealer or into anything I’m against.
    * He generally needs to have brains and common sense. For example, I don’t mind a guy who wants to punch an asshole to defend his girl. But I do mind a guy who wants to do that in front of the cops, knowing he’ll be arrested for it. That’s just stupid.

    I’m picky. 😛

    • Jennifer (Bad Bird Reads)

      LOL, I love that you know what you like. I agree, stupid bad boys or just plain assholes are not for me.

  3. Caro [The Book Rogue]

    Lol, it’s not just you, I totally second that. I can still appreciate a nice guy, but I’m devouringly in love with bad boys of the same variety you love them. I need them in my books, it’s like a drug. I’m guessing it’s because I have an utterly nice guy in real life. 😉

    • Jennifer (Bad Bird Reads)

      See, in real life it’s all about the nice guys for me, so I think that’s why I have to have a bad boy in my books, changes things up.

  4. Braine

    I’m sure you’re not alone in this. Bad boys have a lot more to offer in that they push the envelope and lots of space for character development.

    I’be graduated from these types and have moved on to the sexified geeks like the heroes in Probst and Dryden’s books

    • Jennifer (Bad Bird Reads)

      Okay, you got me there, I love me some geeks. I kinda forgot about them for a second with my bad boy brain being all horny.

  5. JenM

    I like bad boys, but honestly, my favorite heroes are the sweet, sexy ones who are all in and not afraid to show the heroine how much they are into her. I just finished The Friend Zone by Kristen Callihan and the hero, Gray, was so adorable. He was a strong, sexy tight-end, a bit of a man-whore in the past, but once he met the heroine, he was so head over heels for her. For that matter, the first book in the series, The Hook Up was similar. It was the hero who totally wanted more than one night, and the heroine who wanted to keep it from getting serious. I just find it very attractive when it’s the guy that has to do the chasing.

    • Jennifer (Bad Bird Reads)

      I do often like when the guys do the chasing as long as he is not a pushover or too nice. He needs to have some edge.

  6. Lekeisha

    I love both, though the bad boys are always front runners. Sometimes I tire of the bad boys, and I have to go with a sweet guy every now and then.

  7. Kristin

    You are not alone. I feel the same way. I don’t want a guy who’s sickly sweet and romantic in my books. I want a mysterious, rough around the edges kind of guy. However, the Mr better open doors for me, tell me I’m beautiful, and write me a damn poem about all my wonderful attributes every month just because he loves me that much! LoL Seriously though, there’s just something about a bad-boy that keeps a story interesting. Do we really want them in real life? No. However, they make for one hell of a story.

    • Jennifer (Bad Bird Reads)

      Nope, no bad boys in real life, but in books they are just so damn fun!

  8. Jaclyn Canada

    I think part of it too is that in Fantasy and Dystopia, these are alpha women as main characters. They are total badasses! And they NEED a badass that can keep up with them.

    • Jennifer (Bad Bird Reads)

      Yup, we need men that can handle these badass women we have in our books.

  9. Melissa (Books and Things)

    I am not a huge fan of bad boys. I’m not sure what exactly you call sweet, but I’ve read a few (which at the moment my brain is going numb and blank). However, Damon… oh yea, who could resist those bad boy eyes? LOL

    • Jennifer (Bad Bird Reads)

      It could just be the books that I am reading and not the men.

  10. Christy LoveOfBooks

    I do too, but usually when the girl gives it back and he enjoys it. Those are the relationships I prefer. Girl, have you read Corrupt by Penelope Douglas? You HAVE to. P.Doug does them just the way I like. Mmmm

    • Jennifer (Bad Bird Reads)

      Well, now you have me interested. I put it on my list to buy.

  11. Lexxie @ (un)Conventional Bookviews

    I definitely have a soft spot for bad boys too, but like you, only in my books! In real life, I want a solid and good one 🙂
    The MC guys are so hot, and I love that they’re kind of at the border of the law, sometimes slightly crossing over… Excitement ensues and everything is good in my fantasy world.

    • Jennifer (Bad Bird Reads)

      Exactly! Bad Boys make everything better in books, hehe.

    • Jennifer (Bad Bird Reads)

      hehe, I analyze everything but loving bad boys is hard to define why.

  12. Melanie Simmons @mlsimmons

    I’ve always had a thing for bad boys too. I know that I shouldn’t, but I do. Good guys are just boring. However, I just finished a YA Thriller that had a goodie two shoes guy in it and I didn’t mind him. He’s in high school, so I wasn’t drawn to him, because eww. I was glad that him and the main heroine get together.

  13. Nathan

    I realize I seem to read a number of what could be called “bad boys”. Sometimes good guys are OK, but I can see where a bad boy has certain advantages for a story.

  14. Lover Of Romance

    oh I love those bad boys as well…but I like the sweet good ones too!! Thankfully I haven’t become bored with the sweet guys. I love a solid brooding hero, but in some cases it depends on how strong of a “bad boy” the hero really is. They do add a unique element in romances though right?

    • Jennifer (Bad Bird Reads)

      Maybe it’s just the books I have been reading. Authors need to do the good guy right or I am not interested.

  15. Bookworm Brandee

    Well, I suppose I like to mix things up…I mean, one of my favorite book boyfriends of all time is Seth Mortensen from Richelle Mead’s Georgina Kincaid series. Seth is a pretty cool, if nerdy, guy. But then, he’ll also bend a few rules. But then there’s the bad boys…the alpha males. I do like me some alphas, I admit. I do like a man who takes charge, says it like it is, doesn’t mess around. I actually LOVE reading a guy like that. (I don’t know that I’d deal so well in real life with that though) I think I’d have a hard time deciding which makes for more fun reading, Jennifer!

    • Jennifer (Bad Bird Reads)

      I do like the nerdy guys from time to time too. I just don’t like overly nice. It gets boring.

  16. Olivia Roach

    I don’t mind whether my guys are naughty or sweet! I like them both! But maybe you’ve just found the kind that works best for you and that’s that. Many people have favourite genres, and this is just your favourite type! That’s perfectly okay too.

    • Jennifer (Bad Bird Reads)

      😀 true, bad boys is my fav type of guy like urban fantasy is my fav genre.

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