Bookish Blatherings #18: Does Reading Make You Antisocial?

Posted March 10th, 2015 in Bookish Blatherings, My Features / 41 comments

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Welcome to Bookish Blatherings, a Bad Bird Reads feature where I ramble about bookish or bloggerish things and hopefully you will join in on the discussion.

I swear, every weekend, I just want to sit back, relax, and read. More often than not, I would rather read a good book than go out. I know friends are important, and sometimes it’s fun to go out with them, but occasionally I resent when they ask me to go do something. I can’t tell them, “Um, no, Kate and Curran are about to kick some serious ass while cracking wise-ass jokes! I can’t put that on hold! Are you crazy!!!???” But I can’tΒ say that, because that’s what an insaneΒ person would say…right?

Going out, entertaining people, keeping up a conversation can be fun, but it can also be exhausting. But reading energizes me. It makes me all warm and fuzzy. It is the highlight of my weekends and weeknights. Why must I sacrifice that for the pretenses of being normal? It’s not right, I tell you!

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Soooooo, yeah, I think my love of reading has made me a bit antisocial. Seriously, why can’t I find someone who just wants to sit with me and read? We could talk about books, laugh andΒ cry over them, and so on. Now that’s my idea of having an adventurous weekend. Am I right or am I right? I love reading, so I don’t see my obsession as a bad thing, but maybe I should. Still not sure.

Does your love for reading make you antisocial?

If so, is it a good thing or a bad thing?

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41 Responses to “Bookish Blatherings #18: Does Reading Make You Antisocial?”

  1. Red Iza

    You should see me when I read in the train, surrounded by people (who I wish weren’t here) : concentrating on the book, ear plugs in to avoid the noise, that “don’t you dare talk to me” vibe going on. And when the neighbor knocked on our door a few days earlier to invite us for diner ? I wanted to reaaaaaaaaaaaaaad !!!! :'( So, yes, definitely antisocial. If I had more time to myself, I would socialize more, I guess. Hmph.. Who am I kidding, I would read more ! (love Sheldon, by the way)

    • Jennifer Bielman

      LMAO. I would read more every time!!! I like seeing a movie or going out for drinks occasionally, but reading is just the best!

    • Jennifer Bielman

      I know, at least we have the movies to enjoy with our weird non-reading friends.

  2. Bieke @ Istyria book blog

    No I don’t think so. On the opposite, I’ve met so many people because of reading. πŸ˜› Right here in the bookish blogging community. If anything, I’m more social than I used to be and I read more. πŸ˜›

    • Jennifer Bielman

      I am more online social since I started blogging, so I see what you are saying.

  3. Caro @ The Book Rogue

    I think it’s one of those things most of us have in common. I totally get, I’m very antisocial, I can spend all that time in my head, with my stories, and with books. Thank you very much.
    I remember the beautiful times when I used to have lots and lots of sleepovers with friends, and we basically sat around an either read or wrote a story together. Now… we are on totally different work schedules, our lives are crazy far apart, and we all have a boyfriend plus their family and friends to deal with on top of our own. I get my ass dragged somewhere every or every other weekend to be social, and then people wonder why I wouldn’t join in on things that actually sound like fun for me as well. Coz I’m beat and I want to get back into my head, duh. No one around me gets that, but I’m glad there are other ppl out there who do. =)
    I don’t think we should be ashamed of that, or uncomfortable with it, though. I want to believe the hermit in me is part of my charm. πŸ˜‰

    • Jennifer Bielman

      hey, who said hermit-ness isn’t charming? πŸ˜€ Totally is! Ugh, I would be exhausted to be dragged out almost every weekend. Your reading/writing group sounded fun! .

  4. chucklesthescot

    My books ARE my friends! Yup, they are never late ot let you down or try to steal your boyfriend…Seriously, I’m happier sitting in the house reading than dating or going out to pubs and clubs. I’m very much a home person. Anti-social and proud of it!

  5. kindlemom1

    I love Sheldon!

    I think this, at least for me, is a yes and no answer. Yes sometimes I get caught up in the world I am reading and would rather stay home than go out but other times talking about books has actually made me come out of my shell more at the same time.

    I think it is a very fine line you have to walk, like with all hobbies, to make sure you are still taking time for other things and people.

    • Jennifer Bielman

      Good point. I do feel a little like a hermit when I go a few weeks with no much human contact.

  6. Lekeisha

    I’m just an antisocial person in general. I only communicate with my.siblings, fiancee, and on occasion- his immediate family. I don’t like being around people. At all. Some call me an introvert, which is true; and some say agoraphobe(which is just stupid because I do leave my house to go to work and other places). I don’t party or drink, so why go out to only sit there and look crazy? I have one best friend who is like me that way, only she doesn’t read a lot- just a workaholic who loves spending time with her two kids.

    I’m a loner who reads a lot and watches too many movies and TV. People should respect that everyone doesn’t like to go out and socialize. If I want to talk, I have a phone. I don’t need to be in your presence to have a conversation. A lot of people who know me have lots to say about my lack of socialism and indoor behavior but I just roll my eyes and stay to myself. I don’t even socialize with my co-workers; just hello, good morning, and goodbye. On my lunch break I’m sitting alone eating and reading on my phone. I swear they hate me in that place. *shrugs*

    I don’t think that It’s wrong to be different. Just keep doing you and if they can’t understand your need to just be, then they’re the ones with the problem.

    • Jennifer Bielman

      Well said. I am a lot like you. I do socialize at work because it’s hard not to with what I do, but once I am at home, I communicate with immediate family only pretty much.

  7. Bookworm Brandee

    This made me laugh out loud, Jennifer. And then I had to read it to my older daughter! *bwahahaha* I don’t know if reading *made* me antisocial but I would absolutely prefer interacting with my book than with people most of the time. Unfortunately, I have these younger humans in my household that require me to interact with them and with the various people I encounter when at their activities. *ha* But they all know that mama is not happy if she doesn’t carve out some time during the day for reading. And not a one of them thinks it’s a bad thing! πŸ˜‰

    • Jennifer Bielman

      I don’t have any tiny humans yet, but I can see how they make you more social than usual. πŸ™‚

  8. Christy

    I don’t know, I’m both. Like when I was younger, I partied a lot and was involved with sports, horse shows, and all that, but I still read a lot. But now in my 30s, I’m just not into as many things as I once was. I still enjoy going out and spending time with friends, but not to the degree as I once did. So I wouldn’t say reading causes me to be antisocial, I’d say my recent antisocial ways has allowed me to read more. I’m not really antisocial though. Mostly I’m just an asshole. lol

    • Jennifer Bielman

      Bwhahaha, shhhh! No one is suppose to know that antisocial really means asshole! Don’t give all our secrets away.

  9. Melliane

    lol In a way that’s true for me too. I love to stay at home on weekends and relax, reading, watching shows and else, it’s so nice!

  10. Ashley

    I don’t know. I don’t think my love for reading has made me antisocial because I’m ALREADY antisocial haha.

    I just don’t like the “social scene”. That sounds horrible, but it’s true. I don’t like going to to dinner much, I don’t like going to parties, I don’t like going clubbing, and I don’t like having to deal with awkward moments when I’m ready to go home but the other person clearly isn’t.

    Whether I’m reading or not, I am antisocial. I prefer to stay home, read, watch TV, code, cook or order in… Basically anything except leave the house. X_X

    This was a huge problem for me in high school because you can’t be antisocial and expect to still have friends. People would invite me to parties or clubs or out dancing or even just out to dinner. Well, after a while they stopped asking because I always said no. πŸ˜›

    I’m the kind of person who would rather stay home and marathon watch movies, but I feel like everyone else in my high school got over that at the end of middle school. I’m just the awkward girl who never “grew up” (according to their standards). πŸ˜›

    • Jennifer Bielman

      I hate clubbing and parties. I can do a movie or dinner at most. I think it’s kinda coolt o never grow up though. Those are the cool peeps!

  11. Benish

    I used to be more outgoing when I was in my early teen years 13-15, now I’m so antisocial. I don’t like going out much, I rather stay home, read or watch movies on netflix lol. Although, my mother says books have made me a lot worse πŸ™ Great post<3

  12. Inge @ Bookshelf Reflections

    Haaa ha, I love this post, and the Sheldon gif is absolutely perfect. Yes, I do think reading can make one antisocial. On the other hand, I am an introvert by nature, so spending time with people physically and mentally drains me. Reading relaxes me, recharges me, and I can do it for hours without tiring of it. Reading is magical.

    • Jennifer Bielman

      I guess I am an introvert too because I feel the same way around people. Reading is magical!

  13. Olivia

    I wouldn’t see reading as being anti social. People find different things fun, and that’s the truth of the matter. I go out with my friends in some cases, and in others I do turn them down. But the best thing about my friends is that they understand me very well and know that sometimes I just need alone time. And even though they aren’t readers they can understand it is my fun. I do feel guilty when I skip out sometimes though…

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  14. Manisha

    My friends hate it when I sit down with a book in class and refuse to talk or interact with them. But I don’t think it makes one anti-social if we learn to balance our reading with such other activity. It is fun to put down a book and go out, but it is also so much more relaxing to be with a good book on a Sunday!

  15. Jaclyn Canada

    Zane and I actually do that together as bonding time. He gets his Kindle out and sits in his chair, I have mine on the couch and we just enjoy hours of reading together yet separately. It’s pretty wonderful πŸ˜€

  16. Julie S.

    I think reading has helped me be more social – in book clubs and attending bookish events. So it isn’t just for the solitary person πŸ™‚

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